When I was younger, I struggled with depression. I was halfway through my first year in college, and felt like I had no friends. I was still adjusting to a new environment and life, and I spent most of my days either in class, practicing music or studying. It sucks to feel that alone you want to disappear.
Thankfully, I had a laptop and a high speed internet connection. I was able to create a user name, anonymous email, and start a blog that got me through it. No, you can’t see it, it was private then and I deleted it a long time ago. However, through my new identity, I was able to connect with people dealing with the same things and people who got through them. That blog was the first step of many to getting myself out of the dark place I was in.
It took a lot of consideration for me to write this post. I don’t want to talk about such personal topics so openly online using my real identity. People assume you’ve gone through depression and you’re suicidal for life. No one wants anything negative, whether in your social life or health, associated with your identity.
That’s what scares me so much about people tying their online life into their real identity so much. Sure, you can set up anonymous accounts, but it seems like people take you less seriously these days unless they know the name and face behind the screenname. Without that layer of anonymity, we lose the ability to talk about the deeply painful without alienating the hundreds of connections we have online or having them mutate it into something more horrible.
When we lose our privacy online, we lose a lot of the openness that comes with it. That worries me. One of the great aspects of the internet is people connecting to other people with similar problems and working through them together. This type of outreach and community can be very helpful for people who share medical problems or other difficult personal issues that they don’t want to expose openly.
It’s getting harder and harder to obtain those levels of privacy. Facebook and Google follow you wherever you go. People want a name behind the avatar. We may be more authentic, but somewhere in there, we lose the ability to deal with difficult problems authentically.